Friendships
It should happen both ways
It’s two people doing their best to provide support for each other irrespective.
Friendships should be bi-directional, when it becomes one-directional, then it could become toxic
It requires each one to support everyone, and when it isn’t feasible, everyone knows why everyone isn’t able to provide support.
If you find yourself demanding for a friend to provide support, then… One person has become a parasite and the other a host
The strength of friendship is usually evident in sacrifice and commitment aimed at ensuring that each player is supported, this must happen with Joy, willingness, and without coercion
Not everyone should qualify to have the friend status, there are people that you must keep as acquaintances because that’s their best fit in your life
In our life’s journey, we will transit from season to season and the criteria for friendship must be raised, with each new season we enter
This is simply because everyone’s capacity varies, and some people will be unable to interact with you according to the new seasons of your life and any effort to force them to fit in will lead to strain and possibly offense.
Friendships must not last forever
This reality doesn’t make them bad, it just means that their roles and your expectations for them must change.
A friend is a helper, the “friend” title must be earned, friendships must be mutual, and friendships should be able to evolve according to the need
The beauty of friendships is seen in the reciprocation of gestures, and the growth of all involved
Friendships should be seamless, not forced, not as an entitlement, but as an expression of love
Friendship should be like the music from an orchestra, each instrument supplying its unique tone and part to ensure the harmony is complete
In that way, no player is stressed, there is sufficient rest, and the output is complete
Friendships as with all relationships should be defined, it helps with expectations and saves you from disappointment
It ensures that we don’t give a friend an acquaintance treatment & don’t give an acquaintance a friend status
Some of the major challenges and delays we experience happen because we sought to create bonds with people who should have been passers bye.
Today sit back and check, are they your friend or are they just acquaintances?
Then treat them appropriately
2 Comments
Shatengu · November 12, 2020 at 7:35 pm
This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing
Admin · April 24, 2021 at 9:42 pm
Thanks for reading as well