Part 2: When purpose is not known, (Inevitable abuse)

Hello, you’re welcome back

(this is the point where i would smile and give you a thank you hug)

if you missed part 1, click here to read it.

So, Let’s put this in context.

Jack and Joan were actually Christians, committed and all that, though Joan was a bit more uhmm deeper in Spiritual understanding and Jack was the moral, well brought up, a bit Spiritual, but certainly growing fast type

Let’s focus on Joan.

A lot of times the average young believer is caught up with a question in their heads, the question usually sounds like, “what if this isn’t the will of God?” or for some it’s that they just want to know if this journey is God ordained.

We all treat these questions with different levels of priority depending on our understanding and relationship with God.

So Joan was the kind of Lady who needed clarity, she needed to know if she was on track with God, she was fed up of going on emotional rollercoasters that seemed like perfection but had no relevance or place in her future, you know those get it right this time kind of people? Yeaaa… It was Joan!

She had not found clarity, as to why Jack was in her life at this time, or what role she would ultimately play in his life, whether it was going to be life partner or just some one time, meet, impact and move on kind of relationship.

But she never stopped to seek clarity on purpose!

Jack on the other hand, didn’t really prioritize all of that, he was not even considering them, he was oblivious of those levels and perspectives of accountability, he just wanted to ride into the moonlight with his lover by his side. Hehehe not bad yeah!! And he was a really goood guy! Really good.

Alright…

The relationship moved on deeper and deeper till they couldn’t deny they were head over heels, but… They never became official… Urghhhh..

Jack had also come to understand that for some partially clear reason, the love of his life was not ready to cross the commitment line because of some unsorted personal reservations that had nothing to do with him being a good or bad person.

In the months to follow, they had a lot of back and forths, stops and starts, rakes and rumbles yet they maintained status quo until jack decided to move on,

Jack wasn’t ready to put up with the uncertainty, the uncertainty had lead to several straining moments, and Romeo had started finding a way to lock out thoughts of his Juliet, to keep his sanity intact.. sorry I meant Jack and Joan.

So What looked like a match made in heaven now seemed like it was not going to be happily ever after… And guess why?

They never stopped to find out the what, why and when before they got another persons heart entangled in the myriad of their uncertainties.

Ok, Pause:

The point of this classical tale, is to say that, it is safe and advisable to find the purpose of a thing before you interact with it. Because,

“part of loving someone includes being able to do all in your power to protect them emotionally and mentally, and sometimes this takes a lot of sacrifice from the one who loves”.

Sometimes it involves saying:

• No: this is not it
• Wait: I am not certain or
• Stay away: I need sometime to decide

If I know Mr A is not the “till death do us part” friend, I would be efficient in ensuring my interactions are purposeful and effective knowing that the relationship is time bound.

When the role a person is to play in your life is known… The relationship would most likely not be abused, intentionally or unintentionally.

There would be a sense of focus, perspective and a higher possibility of Success!

Our world today is littered with a lot of hit and runs, a lot of emotional drains, a lot of wasted youthful years and regrets.

The damages are far reaching, it subsequently affects families, it shows up in the form of poor leaders and rulers, it leads to divided spiritual congregations and the list can go on.

Good intentions are not enough, when the purpose of a thing is unknown, abuse is inevitable.

Please drop your comments…

Do you think seeking clarity at the beginning is essential? Or does it take away the fun… Is their another way… Let’s hear.