Do we push our friendships to the limit
Or should we keep operating within the boundaries of safety from hurt
Should we be expressive, discover and build capacity to handle our flaws
Or should we be careful and cautious, avoiding our extremes, walking on egg shells…
Should we walk or should we stay…
Sometimes the Holy Spirit binds us to people and places against our desire
for us to fully maximise the constraints & growth opportunities the situations provide
Othertimes, we voluntarily, blindly bind ourselves to people & places, because we accept the lie that were are on a process that doesn’t exist
And to cover up for our fear of the reality awaiting us on the other side of obedience
What friendship entails…
Friendship is not for pleasure alone
It entails responsibility, it is work, a full days work, It is not just for calm weather’s only, it is more for stormy seasons, because those are the seasons that define us
I realise that the closer you get to a man’s core, beyond the veil, the messier it might become
Most friendships can’t stand stormy seasons,
That’s when most people crack from the pressure that comes with vulnerability
That kind of friend…
It may take a very long time to arrive at that place of total accountability, that place where we are not scared of vulnerability
A true friend works their way progressively into your life
Till the point where they go beyond your barricades to the depths of your soul and yet they remain true after discovering the dirt that needs to be cleaned up to bring you to perfection
Those kind friends are the ones who interpret every word and action you do according to who you really are, according to who you where made to be
And not according to what they want you to be, or what the world sees you as, or what your earthy culture has shaped you to become.
Do your current friends have sufficient strength of vision to see beyound your clay pot of imperfection, and into the the treasure within waiting to be poured out?
#SELAH
Accountability happens by choice…
You can live with a friend for years and years, carrying the best friend tag
and still you might never get to their depths, because of the boundaries the world has defined, and which we have also accepted as our standards for living.
But true friends must come to the table, Naked and Unashamed, unafraid of offense for the sake of the greater good
They must come desiring the pruning of commitment and accountability
We are up against a failing world…
The world’s system discourages total commitment & accountability
It promotes competition & comparison among people who have different Purposes
It encourages pressure, it causes that we do not understand our uniqueness and our seperate paths to our destinations
It causes that we do not accept the reality that we cannot arrive at purpose at the same time
It sets us up to race against each other openly and even in the subtilities and quietness of our hearts, where we can deny we don’t sense competition and we cover it up with false out ward expressions that resemble Friendship
White washed sepulchres, glittering on the outside yet tending to an inevitable decay within
#SELAH
What do we do…
To overcome the Babylonian system that limits our full expression, We must protect all relationships that point us to perfection
we must arrive at interpreting relationships according to the purpose for which they exist, and the vision it guarantees to fulfil
The way you will treat a friend that calls you to order when we are derailing, must differ from from the way you treat another that is existing just for “hangouts” and good days
But finally…
Life is not that hard
Life is full of choices
We can just just enjoy it and die like others do, without worrying about all these things
It is not everyone that wants to make an impact by their life, it’s not everyone that wants to be useful, and usefulness is relative to many
But if we desire to be perfected, and to fulfill all that was written about us before time in the “books”,
then we would give it our best shot, and see friendships as what they should be.
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